For quite a while I have been arguing against approaching women in the grocery store. At this point I am changing my story.
As a culture some of us have become so much more recluse that the only place we actually see new people is when we are out shopping. I have come to accept the reality that some people will not find anyone unless they are found grocery shopping.
The problem with approaching in a grocery store is that there is very little conversation starters. I have tried different option from talking about products, to asking someone to help me find something. The problem with these is they don’t typically give any entry into any personal conversation and there is no real ice breaker to build rapport between you and her.
The technique I have settled on that seems to work best is a little dishonest but not forgivable if it turns out to be a great relationship.
The technique consists of 3 different iterations that happen at different times during the time you are at the store with her.
- Once you notice her approach her and act as if you know her. Ask what she has been up to lately. Then when she reacts like she doesn’t know you say “I am sorry, I thought you were this girl I met at the Rodeo in Albuquerque, but I am guessing you are not her. Her name was Jennifer.”
- Politely excuse yourself and act embarrassed.
- Next time you run across her in the store, wave, smile, and call her Jennifer. Then just keep moving and leave her behind.
- The third time you see her approach, take something off of the shelf near her that you plan to buy and tell her you are sorry if you have been acting weird. Tell her she just reminded you of some good times you had. Actually introduce yourself. Compliment her and tell her if she is single you would like to take her our.
In this scenario change the Rodeo to any fun event that you actually know something about. If you don’t know anything about rodeo and you approach someone and tell them that you were at the rodeo they may get excited and want to talk about it. So pick something you actually do and actually attend that is manly and would be respected by a woman.
