Welcome and thank you for being brave enough to look into a potential improvement in your dating life. Dating is very difficult for most people. It is especially difficult for those who are trying to find a long term romantic relationship. Everyone wants to be in a great relationship but finding that special someone who could be the other half of your great relationship seem to be getting more and more difficult.
My name is Brian C. and for the past eight years I have been dating and researching dating strategies and techniques. I was married for 18 years and have been in and out of multiple long term relationships. Through my research and my own experience I have refined the dating process to a place where dating is fun again and it can be fun for you also.
In dating it is impossible to give advice that applies to every romantic interaction. Everyone is different and what some like is completely different from what some others like. The real way for a dating transformation is a personal transformation. But for all of us personal transformations are hard. Sometimes it is even hard for us to admit to ourselves that something is wrong and we need a change.
On this site you will find free advice. You will also find a contact page where you can reach out to me to get personal help and coaching. I try to make enough free content so that nobody needs to pay for my coaching but the sad reality is that every situation is different and considering exactly what is going on is necessary most of the time. This is where my coaching is very necessary.
Another reason I find coaching to be super helpful for my clients is that as they transform and their dating lives get better there are typically not very many of their friends or family who are supportive of them in their new lives. That is the role I take on. I transform for you from being your mentor into becoming your source of encouragement and support.
Most people think dating has changed dramatically over the last ten years or so. I do not agree with this but for sure our culture has changed. These cultural shifts have led to what feels like a dramatic shift in dating. This shift shows up in a dramatic decrease in couples and a reduction in the amount of sex we are having as a culture in general.
The cultural changes come from multiple angles.
- Social Media – Social media has made it possible for us to see and communicate world wide instantly. This has enabled several things that have had a huge impact on our dating lives. Now the prettiest girl in town can be an international celebrity by just posting videos and selfies. She no longer is interested in settling down with the best guy in town, now she wants so much more and often times she ends up chasing the same guy online that all the other pretty girls are chasing.
- The availability of reaching out and finding an old flame is super simple. It is very easy to search for and find old flames and equally as easy to reignite them. Leaving us in a place where it seems like some adventure for ourselves is easy to find regardless of our marriage or partnership.
- Online dating makes dating look so much easier. It gives the false impression that it is simple to find and date a remarkable new partner. Most do not figure out that this is not the case until they try it for themselves for an extended period of time.
In addition to these simple cultural changes there have also been a couple major changes that have hit our culture also.
- Financial Pressure – All relationships are based on transactions but the pressure imposed by the continued rising cost of living and the continued expectations about the quality and ease of life have dramatically changed many people’s opinion on what dating is all about. While it is true looks is still the number one determiner when it comes to someones romantic options the second determiner is financial fortitude. The reality is that the older men are doing better than ever at attracting the younger women. This is because the perception on behalf of the younger women is that the older men have more money than guys their age. This is leaving most young men single as women, who do not find someone in their own age range whom is very attractive to them, flock toward older men.
- The New Simple Life — With streaming services, advanced video games, and to your door delivery services for everything there is really no need for anyone to leave home. The only compelling reason to get out and do anything social is now directly to combat loneliness and not to just be a member of the community. This reclusive behavior has led to more frustration amongst those who are interested in dating and finding friends as a much smaller sub group of the population is available to be met in the real world.
So now it is time for you to find transformation in your own dating life. Consume my free content that you can find here on this page. When you are ready reach out to me via the contact page and lets get you started on a path that will take you to where you really want to be with your dating life.
